Co-dependency in the Birth Chart

Definition of co-dependency from Medica News today:

"A codependent relationship is when one partner needs the other partner, who, in turn, needs to be needed. This circular relationship is the basis of what experts refer to when they describe the "cycle" of co-dependency.

The codependent person's self-esteem and self-worth will come only from sacrificing themselves for their partner (or friend, relative etc), who may be only too glad to receive their sacrifices.

Full details of the article can be found here:

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/319873

Co-dependency factors in the birth chart;

(Not an exhaustive list):

Virgo placements, Pisces placements, Cancer placements, 6th and 12th house placements, Venus retrograde, Venus in the 12th house. Venus in the first house. Venus/Moon contacts, Moon in the first house, Moon in the 12th house. Mars in Cancer. Moon in Cancer. Libra, Pisces, Cancer rising. Neptune in 1st house. Neptune/Moon contacts. Moon singletons/unaspected moon.

These aspects may make a person more likely to put others needs before their own, despite their own, might be a better definition.

Co-dependency can lead to burnout, more about this here;

https://www.lisaaromano.com/blog/high-achiever-codependency-burnout

Co-dependency may be a pattern that has been formed over many lifetimes or just deeply entrenched in this one. It is often difficult to change as it is so instinctual. But to find yourself again and regain full health you must make a concerted effort to change your behaviour.

The journey back to yourself must be taken alone.

It is going to take time to get to know what YOU need to recover. No one's health regime will be the same, no one's sleep pattern, no one's daily routine.

Prioritise what YOU need. Time to really listen to yourself and what your body is telling you, if it's a no, it's a no. You don't have to rationalise it, trust your instincts, your own body knows how to heal you.

You've been prioritising others for far too long. That's why you're in the situation you're in.

It's not selfish, it's literally what you need to do to recover.

Even when you are having a nice time with friends. You will still have to listen to your own body and give it what it needs.

Not everyone suffers from co-dependency. Some people are much more detached and cut off from other people's needs, they may have other signatures in their natal chart which facilitates this.

They naturally prioritise themselves.

A co-dependent person naturally prioritises others and needs to learn to prioritise themselves.

You will never heal your nervous system by adapting to someone else's schedule.

That's how you got into this mess in the first place.

Sleep when you need, eat when you are hungry. Do what YOU need to do. Don't listen to all the other voices.

That's how you got into this mess in the first place.

It will take time; it takes as long as it takes. Even when you think you are not making progress, you are.

Have you ever truly felt the freedom of your own body being in equilibrium? It's so expansive. You feel so safe and at peace.

No one else can give you that feeling, it is your birthright.

Connection with others is important but it should not be at the expense of your own well-being.

You are the only one who is with yourself 24/7, when they are gone, you will have to live with how you feel. So, prioritise your own health, then your very presence will be giving to others.

Then you will be truly giving your best x